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A little over two years ago, tragedy struck my family in the form of a skiing accident.  With one crash landing, life went from a calm walk in the park to a whirlwind of chaos and pain.  As I laid there, confused and terrified in a hospital bed, my family was wracked with grief and overwhelmed by doctors, nurses, therapists and social workers.  And while morphine robbed me of most my initial hospital memories, I'll never forget how it felt when she walked in my room.  My guardian angel didn't have a halo or wings... just black hair and tanned skin.  She came to my bedside, and I mouthed two words... "Hey Ma."

She calls herself my Italian Drama Mama, but most people know her as Margie Victor.  Her son Robbie and I first met playing Little League against each other in elementary school, and we have been as close as brothers for almost 20 years now.  Ask for her favorite memory of me, and the woman I call my second mom will without a doubt embarrass me yet again with a tale of a little boy falling in love with her cooking.  The great Italian dish that sealed it?  Rice-a-Roni...

Scour the earth, and I guarantee you will not find another soul like Margie.  She's beautiful.  She's smart.  She's funny.  She's animated as all hell.  Her boisterous laugh and ability to find both humor and irony in just about any situation will make you smile every time.  The very definition of unconditional love, she's one of the rare few genuinely open minds of her generation that chooses to look past the crazy hair colors, tattoos and piercings of people my age to see them for who they really are. 

What makes Margie so amazing is the fact that if you are a friend of either of her sons, you are as good as family in her eyes.  It doesn't matter what's going on in your life, you always know there's one place you can turn for help, a place to crash, some great Italian food or just a warm hug.  Because she is this way, she receives the utmost respect, love and, at times, fear from every boy that was lucky enough to call her "Ma."  Nothing can bring a grown man to his knees like a look of disapproval from a barely-five-foot-tall Italian woman.

So, it's not surprising that after she kissed me on the forehead in the intensive care that February morning, I knew everything was going to be OK.  From that point on, Margie became my family's absolute rock.  Always thinking, she refused to let us give up hope.  She somehow made it seem as if she was always there, and when she wasn't, some sort of sixth sense would cause her to call at the very moment we needed her strength.  She was the one person that managed to keep her bearings amidst all the trauma and confusion, and went on to carry us through our darkest days. 

Flash forward to the present. Aside from my mom, my Italian Drama Mama is the only person that gets me completely.  She has the unique ability to judge whether a situation or location is "Kenny accessible" based on a complete understanding of my comfort levels that even I don't have.  Regardless of where she is, she is constantly analyzing every detail as they pertain to me; accessibility, weather, temperature, social setting, you name it.  Most days, all we have to do tell her where we are headed, and she can instantly break down everything we might need, and what we should expect.  Looking back, I can't imagine how my family could have survived this whole ordeal without my guardian angel.  I strongly believe that, if it were not for Margie, I would never have been able to adjust to my life as it is.

I truly hope you understand just what you have meant to our family over these last few years, Ma.  You have no idea how great it feels to always know there is an angel like you on our side at all times. We all love you so much.

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Leigha écrit :
That was beautifully written.  I am sure she knows how much you love her for just being in your life.  Kudos!
20 Juin
Ready to fly?a écrit :

What a cool tribute.

I was going to say I have a Margie in my life, but no, that's stupid -- all people are different, individuals. So I'll say 'Cheers, Margie' and I'm glad she is in your life and that you in turn appreciate her the way you do.

Abe

19 Juin
Rocs Canoya écrit :
Awww, this entry got me teary-eyed.  You must love Margie so much.  I wish this world could have more Margies.  We all need people like her in our lives.
3 Juin
Grega écrit :
God bless Margie!!!
 
We could all learn a lot from her...
 
Blessings to you and your loved ones...
 
Greg
31 Mai
deniseta écrit :
hey thats great!  very nice!  glad you are writing again!
31 Mai
Deba écrit :
Awesome entry. You must love her a lot...it shows. You are lucky to have each other in your lives.
 
Deb
30 Mai
Gayle Ba écrit :
I slept your return, but glad to see you writing again!  I lost someone who held that place in my Life - my best friends Mom. She was the one I could go to when my number 1 Mom wouldn't understand.  I feel lucky to have known her because she taught me what to be for some wonderful (or not so wonderful) young person that my daughter might bring home.  Hope I can live up to the legacy.
 
Be well, Kenny.
 
Gayle
29 Mai
Wayne Cheuanga écrit :
Hi,this is a man from China and I am gonna to pursue my PHD at an american university from this fall.
Nice to see your posts at this space.You give me a deep impression.I came across to this place and saw there are so many frieneds(We can call each other friends,Cann't we?)leave their comments here.You guy wll be blessed.
28 Mai
Stephena écrit :

Ya know Kenny, whenever I come here to visit you, one of two things INVARIABLY HAPPENS. It never fails.

 

You either have me laughing so hard that I pee myself (hate when that happens), OR, you turn me into what I always feared I would one day become: a weepy old man.

 

After reading this post, I am not laughing...

 

It has occurred to me, many times over the years, that there are certain people who are here, WITH us, in our journey through life.

 

They GET us, to such a total degree, that to the uneducated eye it almost appears uncanny, perhaps even a little bit ‘magical’. I have my own theories as to why that is so, but I won’t share them here, as that would be a blog entry unto itself.

 

Suffice it to say that it gladdens me to know that you have such a person, probably more than one such person, in your life.

 

steve
27 Mai
Aarona écrit :
Nice Space man it seems you are pretty popular.  Pass some of it this way.  Come by and check it out.
27 Mai
Colina écrit :

Hey what's up kenny,

Thanks for including me in the Quad squad.  I was wondering why your site kept appearing in my statistics.

When I was first injured I feel like I was surrounded by angels.  From the moment I broke my neck it was as if God surrounded me and showed himself through all the people who came into my space.  There was one nurse in particular who sat by my bed and hardly ever left my side.  I don't even remember her name, only that her presence was so peaceful and comforting.  Not really the same as your story, just thought I'd share.

I'm looking to make some more aggressive moves in my therapy.  I may be attending project walk and I'm looking into a surgery in Portugal.  Have you ever thought about participating in the more experimental directions of recovery?

take it easy,

Colin

27 Mai
Hey!Iam Giuliana and I'm from Italy,I came into your profile acidentally while I was browsing in the net...But I wanna say that you seem an amazing person and I love your space.This post about your mom is so sweet.
Have a great day  
27 Mai
nlhg&djga écrit :
I love my mama more than I can say and no one can take her place. But in a way, my second mama or my adopted mama as I call her, does what she does, not because we are blood related, but because she is a wonderful person, and a beloved friend. I know how you feel about ma.
nlhh
26 Mai
Graciaa écrit :

God bless you and your Guardian Angel.  Your story has greatly inspired me today.

~Grace~ 

26 Mai
雪乔 王a écrit :
What a beautiful angle u have!
happiness will always around u~~
26 Mai
Aucun noma écrit :
Great story as always!
 
So glad you had that person in your life- she sounds wonderful.  I myself have been blessed a couple of times in my life with extended family like this. 
 
Hope you are well!
 
Tee
25 Mai
BPa écrit :

I'm so glad you were blessed enough to have an individual like this in your life at such a taxing time, and of course you know I understand how difficult the initial transition areas. I have had many close friends in my, relatively young, quadriplegic life, however, no one has been able to understand me that well, with the exception of my brother. Good luck and all of your future endeavors and may continue to enjoy this close bonding you have with your second mother.

Billy (Quadius)

24 Mai
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Lynsey a écrit :
That's why God sends such angles....he tells them what to say to us and do for us. You are very lucky to have such a special one. Have a good Memorial Weekend!
24 Mai
Jennya écrit :
Dude I can't wait to talk to you! What's the plan for our combo b.day party shin-dig?? I'll call ya later. ANSWER! Love ya Friend.
24 Mai
Patriciaa écrit :
Kenny, what a great woman she sounds like. Your description of her in and of itself brings comfort. -patti
24 Mai

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